GROSS BEHAVIOURS LESSON

 Behaviour:

Refers to the way we act, respond, or conduct ourselves in different situations—toward others, the environment, and even ourselves. It encompasses everything from our speech, facial expressions, and decisions, to how we handle emotions, solve problems, and interact socially.

How Behaviour Relates to Personality

1. Expression of Personality:
   Behaviour is often the visible expression of our personality traits. For example:

   • An introvert might behave more quietly in social settings.

   • A conscientious person may behave in an organized and responsible way.

2. Feedback Loop:
   While personality influences behaviour, repeated behaviours can also shape or reinforce personality over time. For example:

   • Practicing kindness (a behaviour) can strengthen empathy (a personality trait).

3. Adaptability:
   Some behaviours are more situational than rooted in personality. A naturally impulsive person can learn self-control if needed—showing that behaviour can be trained or adjusted.

We can say oneˋs Behavior and Personality is complement of each other. One must care one's behavior and one should remain gentle in all situation.

How Behaviour Affects Society

1. Social Harmony:

   • Respectful, empathetic behaviour contributes to trust, cooperation, and peace.

   • Aggressive or dishonest behaviour can create conflict and division.

2. Cultural Norms:
   Societies develop norms and expectations about behaviour. These guide:

   • What’s considered polite or rude.

   • How justice is served.

   • How communities raise children or care for elders.

3. Role Modeling:
   Behaviour is contagious. Children, peers, and even strangers observe and often imitate what they see—good or bad. This is how behaviour helps shape the next generation.

4. Institutional Impact:
   On a larger scale, collective behaviours influence:

   • Political movements

   • Economic trends

   • Social change (e.g., civil rights, environmental action)

In Summary

• Behaviour is the action; personality is the tendency.

• Our behaviour reflects who we are? —and shapes who we become.

• In society, behaviour is the glue that holds relationships, culture, and systems together.

Yes, a person begins learning behaviour from childhood. In fact, many psychologists believe that a child’s early experiences—especially with parents, teachers, and peers—are the foundation of future behaviour patterns. But even as adults, we continue to learn and adapt. 

How Do We Learn Good Behaviour?

We learn behaviour through:

1. Observation (Role Models)
   We watch and imitate parents, teachers, elders, and even media figures. If a child sees kindness, honesty, and patience, they’re more likely to copy it.

2. Reinforcement
   Good behaviour is often rewarded (praise, respect), while bad behaviour is corrected (punishment or disapproval). Over time, this teaches right from wrong.

3. Cultural Norms & Values
   Our society, religion, or community teaches what is considered “good” behaviour. For example, in one culture, greeting elders with respect is crucial; in another, equality in speech is valued.

4. Education
   Schools and moral education help shape behaviour—especially in teaching civic duties, gender equality, and respect for others.

5. Personal Experience & Reflection
   Life itself teaches. When we experience empathy, regret, or success, we reflect and improve.

6. Developing habits of remain cool

     One must understand the situation, Annalise the other person     and response accordingly with discipline of our limbs, tung and     gesture. 

    What Should a Person Do to Improve Behaviour?

1. Self-Reflection:
   Ask: How do I treat others? Do I listen? Do I respect differences?

2. Seek Feedback:
   Be open to suggestions from teachers, friends, or family. Sometimes others notice what we miss.

3. Practice Empathy:
   Try to understand other people’s feelings and situations. It leads to better emotional behaviour.

4. Control Reactions:
   Learn to manage anger, fear, or frustration. Calmness is a sign of maturity.

5. Stay Informed:
   Educate yourself on gender sensitivity, civic rules, and cultural diversity.

Classification of Behaviour in 4 Categories

We may classify the behavior in four categories on basis of place, situation and law of land. 

1. Civic Behaviour

• Respecting laws, not littering, following traffic rules.

• Voting responsibly, paying taxes, using public services wisely.

• Being a responsible citizen.

2. Public Safety Behaviour

• Driving safely, avoiding violence or reckless acts.

• Reporting dangers (like fire, theft, or abuse).

• Helping in emergencies (like offering first aid or calling help).

3. Gender Equality & Attitude

• Supporting equal rights for all genders.

• Respecting personal choices and consent.

• Avoiding sexist language or jokes.

• Encouraging girls and boys equally in school, sports, and leadership.

4. Diversity & Discrimination Behaviour

• Treating people from different religions, castes, races, or backgrounds with respect.

• Speaking against discrimination.

• Celebrating differences and learning from them.

    In Summary

• Behaviour is learned and can be improved through awareness and effort.

• Good behaviour builds strong personal character and a healthy society.

• Dividing behaviour into Civic, Safety, Gender, and Diversity aspects helps us understand and practice it in all areas of life.

 

“An educated citizen is the pride of a country.”

The Law Book of Gentle Behaviours

1. Civic Behaviour

Goal: Build a clean, honest, and responsible society.

✅ What to Do	❌ What Not to Do
Follow traffic rules, even when no one is watching.	Don’t jump red lights or ride without a helmet.
Dispose of garbage in dustbins.	Don’t litter public places.
Vote responsibly.	Don’t sell or buy votes.
Pay taxes honestly.	Don’t cheat or avoid civic duties.
Respect public property (parks, roads, buses).	Don’t vandalize walls or damage public benches.
Participate in community clean-ups. Queue up in lines patiently. Play music on mobile phone with headphones in public spaces like buses, parks or cafes. Co- operate with local area corporation to solve the local grievances. Care about climate change	Don’t ignore issues thinking “it’s not my job.” Don’t push or cut queues.
UPI/digital payments has replaced cash as my preferred mode for day-to-day transactions	Don't travel without a ticket, or without paying, on public transport  Don't play with electricity meters to reduce bills    Don't pay bribe to get your work done

2. Public Safety Behaviour

Goal: Protect yourself and others in daily life.

✅ What to Do	❌ What Not to Do
Follow safety rules on roads and in public spaces.	Don’t overspeed or drive recklessly.
Report emergencies (fire, accident, violence).	Don’t ignore someone in danger.
Help the injured or elderly cross the road.	Don’t pretend you didn’t see someone in need.
Speak out against bullying or harassment.	Don’t encourage or laugh at unsafe behaviour.
Teach children about safety and dangers.	Don’t let children play unsupervised near roads.
Keep your surroundings well-lit and secure.	Don’t neglect fire or safety hazards at home.

3. Gender Equality & Attitude

Goal: Create a respectful, equal, and safe environment for all genders.

✅ What to Do	❌ What Not to Do
Treat all genders with equal respect and opportunity.	Don’t believe that one gender is superior.
Support girls in education and career.	Don’t discourage girls from leadership roles.
Respect personal boundaries and consent.	Don’t comment on someone's clothes or looks.
Listen to women and girls without bias.	Don’t interrupt or dismiss their opinions.
Share household duties equally.	Don’t assign roles based on gender only.
Use respectful, non-sexist language. A woman should be free to marry whoever she wants even against the wishes of her parents Allow a woman to participate in        decision making	Don’t use terms like “boys don’t cry” or “girls can’t lead.” Don't dominate the womens in sorroundings.

 A woman should be free to make decisions about using the money she earns, without requiring approval from male family members       

 Women should vote for the candidate who the male members of the family have also voted for     

  Female members of the family should be encouraged to take up a job outside the home       

Daughters of the family should be encouraged to study/ pursue education as much as the sons of the family         

4. Diversity & Discrimination Attitude

Goal: Embrace unity, respect differences, and fight discrimination.

✅ What to Do	❌ What Not to Do
Respect all religions, castes, and cultures.	Don’t mock accents, festivals, or rituals.
Include people from different backgrounds.	Don’t isolate or exclude anyone.
Support the rights of disabled, LGBTQ+, and minorities.	Don’t stereotype or judge anyone unfairly.
Listen to different opinions with an open mind.	Don’t spread hate speech or fake news.
Learn and celebrate diversity.	Don’t force your beliefs on others.
Speak up when you see discrimination.	Don’t be silent in the face of injustice.

 Universal Golden Behaviours

These apply to all categories:

• Be kind without reason.

• Say "thank you", "sorry", and "please" often.

• Help someone without expecting anything.

• Respect time, space, and silence.

• Speak truth with compassion.

  Behaviour:       Public Safety   

  Attitudes       Diversity & Discrimination  

  A man and woman should be free to marry each other, even if they are from different religions      

 A man and woman should be free to marry each other, even if they are from different castes       

Residents’ associations or housing societies have the right to prohibit certain types of food (such as meat or beef) in individual apartments or common areas     

 I am comfortable with people/families of different religions moving into and living in my apartment complex, neighbourhood, or housing society